As much and as hard as I have worked on being authentic and real, I still have more to go.
I notice that before I say or do things I think of the consequences, I change things, lighten things, etc. in order to manipulate what I think the outcome would be. And I am not talking about huge manipulations just minor ones.
Such as how to tell someone that I love that I need something from them. Instead of just telling them and asking them if they will do it, I find myself trying to convince them, or saying it in a way that would be more appealing to them.
This may seem like no big deal to most but to me it is. It is because if I can't trust myself to real I will never be able to trust anything anyone else is saying or doing. I am always questioning what everyones ulterior motive is.
On the same note trying to slightly convince someone of something is not trusting. Its the opposite of trusting, its try to force things. No matter how slight it is, it is still not trusting. And I intend to live my life and in faith and trust.
The concepts I refer to all the time are:
"Everything happens for a reason."
"Everything is perfect."
I am starting to truly live by these more and more and but as I said, I still got a little ways to go.
I am grateful for my growth and how authentic of a person I am now and I have no doubt that any of my "hidden" areas with have light shined onto them. It is my intention to live free and REAL.
Showing posts with label Loving What is. Show all posts
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My experience with Byron Katie
Today I attended a workshop, "Loving What Is" with Byron Katie.
I have been reading about Byron Katie and doing her work for a while now.
I have to say if you are not familiar with Byron Katie, most of her work is free at www.Thework.com.
A lot of things she says are so profound yet so simple its like having multiple aha moments at once listening just by listening to her.
"It's your thoughts that make you secure or insecure." -Byron Katie
Here is an example she has given. If when you were little you thought your father was in his room, while you were in the kitchen. You felt secure. Even though wasn't in the same room with you and you couldn't see him. When really he left to the store without you realizing it and was hit by a truck. But you still feel secure because you are believing he is in the other room.
Its the belief he is in the other room which makes you feel secure. Not reality. It goes the other way around as well. Its your belief about reality that makes you feel stress, not reality itself.
Byron Katie has said "You can have a heart attack, thinking about how your going to die and you can't believe its happening to you and all the bad things that will follow. Or you can have a heart attack, thinking how interesting, I am having a heart attack I wonder what happens next. Either way you are having a heart attack, but you get to choose whether you do it in peace or not.
The best thing we can do is to learn to love reality. When you love what is, you never suffer, no matter what happens.
We can reach this point by questioning our beliefs and thoughts.
I heard a statistic once that we have around 60,000 thoughts per day and 99% of them are the same thoughts we had the day before and something around that same percentage are the amount of thoughts that are untrue.
Think about this, think about any thought you have. "I should be..................." Feel in the blank (ex. I should be doing laundry). And find all the ways his isn't true, why its not true (Well I wouldn't be writing this blog). However this is just to show how your thoughts can be false. This is not how Byron Katie does inquiry and I will post her four questions of inquiry below.
Our reality is created by what we believe. So do you believe thoughts that cause you pain or create peace. If they cause you any discomfort you can use Byron Katie's The Work, to inquiry and see if they are true. To find the truth, to find peace.
The work has really started to reshape the relationship that I have with my thoughts and Byron Katie has the most serving way of helping, by offering the work for free. She even has a support line for free in order to help people with inquiry.
It doesn't hurt to try it.
Lots of love.
I have been reading about Byron Katie and doing her work for a while now.
I have to say if you are not familiar with Byron Katie, most of her work is free at www.Thework.com.
A lot of things she says are so profound yet so simple its like having multiple aha moments at once listening just by listening to her.
"It's your thoughts that make you secure or insecure." -Byron Katie
Here is an example she has given. If when you were little you thought your father was in his room, while you were in the kitchen. You felt secure. Even though wasn't in the same room with you and you couldn't see him. When really he left to the store without you realizing it and was hit by a truck. But you still feel secure because you are believing he is in the other room.
Its the belief he is in the other room which makes you feel secure. Not reality. It goes the other way around as well. Its your belief about reality that makes you feel stress, not reality itself.
Byron Katie has said "You can have a heart attack, thinking about how your going to die and you can't believe its happening to you and all the bad things that will follow. Or you can have a heart attack, thinking how interesting, I am having a heart attack I wonder what happens next. Either way you are having a heart attack, but you get to choose whether you do it in peace or not.
The best thing we can do is to learn to love reality. When you love what is, you never suffer, no matter what happens.
We can reach this point by questioning our beliefs and thoughts.
I heard a statistic once that we have around 60,000 thoughts per day and 99% of them are the same thoughts we had the day before and something around that same percentage are the amount of thoughts that are untrue.
Think about this, think about any thought you have. "I should be..................." Feel in the blank (ex. I should be doing laundry). And find all the ways his isn't true, why its not true (Well I wouldn't be writing this blog). However this is just to show how your thoughts can be false. This is not how Byron Katie does inquiry and I will post her four questions of inquiry below.
Our reality is created by what we believe. So do you believe thoughts that cause you pain or create peace. If they cause you any discomfort you can use Byron Katie's The Work, to inquiry and see if they are true. To find the truth, to find peace.
The work has really started to reshape the relationship that I have with my thoughts and Byron Katie has the most serving way of helping, by offering the work for free. She even has a support line for free in order to help people with inquiry.
It doesn't hurt to try it.
Lots of love.
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